Fears to Fierce by Brita Fernandez Schmidt

Author:Brita Fernandez Schmidt [Schmidt Fernandez, Brita]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781473580923
Publisher: Ebury Publishing

Choose love

If you allow yourself to live in pain by holding on to rage, resentment or hate, you’ll slowly erode from the inside and feel constantly disconnected from your fierce. Of course, I don’t want to label anger as a ‘negative’ emotion – it can be a brilliant fuel for driving social change. But there will always be a time you’ll need to release your anger, its purpose served, for your inner wellbeing. I know this from my own experience. Do I feel angry at the injustice in the world? Absolutely YES! Has it propelled me forward? Absolutely YES. But when I needed to heal, it wasn’t anger that helped, but love. The process of recovery is sometimes referred to as forgiving or forgetting, but it’s neither of those things: it’s about releasing the pain with love for yourself.

Love allows me to recover from the sadness and despair I feel when I hear the stories of people like the man who gave us juice in Bosnia. What inspired me more than anything was the love he showed us despite (or maybe because of) the pain of his experience. That love nurtures my fierce because it reminds me that there is always a way to freedom even from the deepest pain. Knowing that gives me the courage and the ability to focus on the why. Why are we here? What is our purpose? In this way, receiving love helps me to stay centred on my purpose, and to follow my purpose with love, too.

For some, the concept of love feels incongruous with certain parts of our lives – work, for example. I have read many management books and few talk about the importance of love. In fact, many speak about keeping our work and personal lives separate and warn against becoming too close to colleagues. I know it is unconventional to speak about love at work and to cultivate love in a work team, but that’s exactly what I do.

Because love allows us to connect, find freedom and therefore uncover our potential, it made so much sense to me to bring it to work. After all, did I not want to work in a highly motivated team who uncovered their potential and changed other people’s lives in turn?

I set about purposefully introducing love into our ways of working and our values. Together as a team we defined how we wanted to interact with each other. The loving kindness that our team is committed to has transformed the way we all work. It propels us to be flexible and supportive of each other’s life circumstances, and when we treat each other with love, we enable each other to fulfil our purposes.

Choosing to turn up with love creates a sense of ease and a space where people can ‘in-power’ themselves and reach for more ambitious goals. I know that the love my team and I have for our communal purpose and colleagues is a huge motivating factor for all of us. Love creates possibilities and encourages us to find compassionate ideas and solutions that foster love further.

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